Appeal to the relationship. In the face of family conflict, always confirm the relationship and do everything you can to preserve it. For example, if you talk to your adult son, you might say: Families are important to God. That`s why few things are more painful than unresolved family conflicts. Dominant in-laws, stubborn teenagers or jealous stepchildren can turn any happy home into a war zone. Problems such as who is in the turn to take out the trash and whether your teenage daughter has done her homework before turning on the computer are annoying but relatively small problems that can usually be solved with minimal interruption to family life. We all had family conflicts. The details are not so important. How we deal with family struggles is what is really crucial.

Forgiveness is the key to resolving family conflicts. Many people cling to irreconcilability to punish the person who hurt them. However, it harms you and prevents healing from entering the relationship. With everything life has in store for you (stress at work, discovering Zoom, getting kids to do their homework, coping with family illnesses, putting dinner on the table), it can be hard to stay grateful for what matters most: your family. When relationships are strained (or even when things are going well!), the Bible can help you remember the importance of maintaining those strong family ties and unity. Fortunately, the Bible has a lot to say about family conflicts. Not only do we have several examples such as Cain and Able, Abraham and Lot, David and his brothers, to name a few; but we also have specific scriptures about family life. There`s a good chance you`ll be going through or out of a conflict with a family member.

While conflict is never fun, it can be a great opportunity for everyone involved to grow in their understanding of grace and truth. Below are some resources to help you manage conflict in a way that honors God and the person you are in conflict with. Sometimes conflicts even arise in the family. And here I`m not just thinking of extremely dysfunctional families like Joseph`s (yes, your brothers who sell you into slavery are certainly dysfunctional). Who is closer and to whom are you more vulnerable than someone you love deeply and whose words matter most? Biblical patriarchs have sometimes experienced passionate disagreements in marriage: you can find all kinds of advice in the Good Book — Bible verses about marriage and Bible verses about children and, yes, Bible verses about patience — to help you spend a lot of time with the family. Console yourself by knowing that the answers to your daily stress are at your fingertips. Here, verses specifically about the family. The proximity of family relationships makes it difficult to manage conflicts.

If you are facing family conflicts, here are some general guidelines to keep in mind: Now Naomi had a relative of her husband, a man of great wealth, from Elimelech`s family, whose name was Boaz. Here we see how important it is for God to love your family. He says you also can`t pretend to love him and hate your family. As Christians, dealing with conflicts and disagreements should be different. He should be like Christ. This means that our decisions and reactions are based on the common good. As followers of Christ, we must look at the bigger picture. We don`t want to win a battle and end up losing the war (winning the disagreement but losing the relationship). The Lord challenges His people to grow and mature; in the end, to be more like Christ. This is not to encourage people to stay in abusive or unhealthy situations. But most of us don`t struggle with such circumstances.

We are only fighting for our right to be right. What about unnecessary conflicts in the family and their consequences on health? Although formulated in Proverbs from the point of view of man, the principles should apply in both directions. The ideal, of course, is 1 Pet 3:7: Husbands are sensitive to your wives so that nothing hinders your prayers (for God cares for the righteous, not evil, 3:12). Copyright 2008 Mary J. Yerkes. Use with permission. All rights reserved. For my father and mother have abandoned me, but the Lord will welcome me. Unfortunately, Tom`s situation has not developed so well. Parent-child relationships can also be stressful (although as parents, it can help us to have some spiritual maturation!): so it is not the will of my father, who is in heaven, that one of these little ones perishes. 14:1, NRSV: ”The wise man builds her house, but the fools demolish it with their own hands. But above all, my brothers, do not swear, neither in heaven, nor on earth, nor on any other oath, but that your ”yes” yes and ”no” are no, so that you may not be damned.

May the God of perseverance and encouragement grant you to live together in such harmony, in accordance with Christ Jesus, if possible, to the extent that it depends on you, live in peace with all. .